It is so hard to have a Mary heart in a Martha World. You feel as if every day is one step forward and ten steps back. An inch forward and a mile back. Dishes piled high in the sink like mini skyscrapers, Cheerios scattered under the table like little minefields, Hot Wheels, and dolls interspersed with Lego’s forming an obstacle course on the carpet that you swore you just vacuumed. It looks like a toy war zone and don’t even get started on that pile of laundry that is overflowing the hamper.
The House Is A Zone Toy War Zone Again
Trying To Have A Mary Heart In A Martha World When There Is So Much To Do
I Can’t play kids, I have so much to do…
Like wheels spinning through mud, you wade through the same chores over and over.
Cringing at the sound of spilled toy logs and squeals as small feet race through the back door the pup on their heels leaving a trail of mud in their wake.
A sigh escapes your lips at the cupcake that slips from your little girl’s hands and lands on the freshly mopped floor.
You turn as he boys come running across the livingroom in their matching adventurer hats. Laundry explodes in all directions as the boys catapult into it laughing with delight.
You feel your blood pressure rising. You are getting angry. Indignant. Losing your cool.
How often do we sacrifice “God moments” in our home to be Martha Constantly working, busy, doing Instead of sitting at Jesus’s feet like Mary
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Mary Heart In A Martha World When Your Feeling Total Exhaustion... Defeat.
You lost your temper and the kids arn’t laughing anymore. Tears run down your face as you hide in the pantry for just a moment, hiding from the chores glaring their accusations at you.
The broom sits leaning against the island where you left it to check the laundry andget it folded. You shake your head as the negative self talk starts. You can’t do anything right. Man, it is just a simple task to sweep the floor and look at you. Eating oreos and hiding. If you were a better mom… a better wife… better.
“Why is mommy so upset?” comes from the other room.
You hear sniffles as they run off to the other part of the house. Let’s make her a present.
You cry harder thinking of yet one more mess that you are going to be stuck with yet again.
How often do we sacrifice the God moments in our homes to be Martha?
Constantly working, busy, doing.
Instead of sitting at Jesus’s feet like Mary. We get caught up in ensuring our lives, our little piece of the world looks Pinterest and Instagram beautiful instead of enjoying the beauty of the mess around us.
I’m not saying never clean your house again. To live in filth that is unhealthy to you and to your family but what I am saying is that there has to be balance.
It is not true that Mary never cleaned.
It isn’t true that she was lazy and slovenly and rude and made Martha do all of the work.
What is true is that Jesus heard Martha’s complaints abut Mary not heling her with the meal. But he knew the truth. He knew that time was fleeting. The bible says that our lives are like a mist here one moment and gone the next. He knew that he would not always be there with them and that Mary chose wisely in spending time sitting at Jesus’ feet and relishing the moment. Of taking in every word while he was there. Taking time to be fully present.
Take Time To Have A Mary Heart In A Martha World
Take time to laugh and smile as you dip your fingers in the icing on your little girls’ face.
Share the giggles as you watch the joy on your son’s face as he and the pup play in the mud, his arm slung across her shoulders, and whispering in her ear ‘thats my boy, Spot’.
Watch with wonder as the best adventure since Indiana Jones is happening across the deserts of Africa, or the jungles of South America, as the intrepid adventurers run from danger and straight into the folded laundry pile.
Take a Deep Breath As You Attain A Mary Heart In A Martha World
The tiny hands pulling at you in a thousand different directions begging you to watch them as they attempt to leap tall buildings in a single bound to save the world and join them for a tea party.
Enjoy that moment, be there… really there. Then make a game of cleaning up the toys and helping mommy with the laundry.
Sometimes the world needs a Martha, someone to tackle the laundry, clean the house wash the dishes and scrub the places they missed- but sometimes the world needs a Mary someone who can sit and listen. Martha can never teach your children to follow Christ through good times and bad only Mary who sits at Christ’s feet and listens to his voice can teach them that. Take the time and be a bit of both. Savor those fleeting moments.
Before you go, Check out these other posts
- What Does God Sound Like?
- When God’s Calling Doesn’t Make Sense
- When You Feel Like Saying When
- Practice Of Being Present
- Believing The Worst
- The Importance Of Godly Parenting